“Expectation is the root of all heartache” - William Shakespeare
When building our relationships and learning to be better communicators, it helps to think outside the box once in a while.
Recently we came across Ben Winter. Ben is an Author, Speaker, Actor, Improvist, Entrepreneur, Traveler, Father, and much much more. He’s a man with a very simple yet powerful framework for improving our communication with other people. The expectation framework.
In a nutshell, it’s a simple way of understanding and resolving conflict with other people. He not only discusses it with us but he also provides the framework on his website here.
In addition, episode 53 of the ikario podcast, he discusses how to use the skills acquired through improv to greatly improve the quality of your connections and relationships.
In this episode…
Some of the points covered in today’s conversation:
- 00:00 - Intro
- 01:35 - How Ben came to write a book
- 03:23 - Parallels with Buddhism & other teachings
- 07:16 - The expectations flow chart
- 11:06 - Ben’s improv work
- 16:46 - The rules of improv
- 22:15 - Being in the present moment
- 30:02 - What problems does improv solve?
- 36:40 - Why don’t we share our expectations?
- 40:45 - Where to go to learn more
Links & Resources
- Success Improv (Ben’s Website)
- What To Expect When Having Expectations (Ben’s Book)
- Havingexpectations.com (Ben’s other website)
- Expectations Flow Chart (PDF)
Over to You
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