My approach to work has changed a lot, especially since I took a real break from work for the first time in years. I found that I can try less hard, feel less pressure and still get more done. The surprising part is what we’re actually avoiding when we procrastinate.
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- Tensing up to make a good outcome happen is like trying hard to fall asleep. It doesn’t work, and it often makes things worse.
- When you work, the work itself takes some effort. Separately there’s the inner tension of trying, full of “shoulds” and self-judgment.
- When you procrastinate, you may be escaping that self-inflicted tension rather than the work, and blaming the task for how it feels.
- Challenging work can be rewarding. Research on flow suggests people who are in flow more often tend to be happier.
- Some procrastination is reasonable. Maybe the work is pointless, it’s the wrong line of work for you, or you aren’t clear on what to do.
- First, notice the tension. Pay attention in the moment, or use meditation or introspective writing to examine the stories behind it.
- Then let go, like unclenching a fist. Over and over, I’ve found my best performance comes when I’m not trying hard.